I know I have probably come across as strict and a little mean with this single living topic.
I’ve been listening to Devon Franklin and Megan Good discuss their book “The Wait” and they said the world is interested in new ideas that challenge the status quo. Like the idea that a couple can actually be celibate for even a year prior to marriage while the world wants us to believe that if you do not have sex for more than a week you will grow a third leg.
That basically we can’t control our sexual urges and women are talking about the things they will do for good d**k.(EEEW.)
So my whole goal is to challenge the idea that you have to be miserable and unhappy during your wait for a mate.
Devon and Megan explained it so well. That God made them wait but this was necessary to prepare them for what was ahead. They did not look at the wait as a time of sorrow and mourning but a time of preparation. They also trusted that only God knew what they needed and how long it would take them to get ready. So their waiting was relaxed, busy and not anxious and stressed out.
I have been happy single for many years and have totally rejected the idea I am meant to wait for this man while unhappy, anxious and plain old MISERABLE.
But if you have been taught by the media, by church, by society to be miserable, I’ve got your back. Don’t worry. There’s hope.
You just have to incorporate a new habit in your life. Like waking up an hour earlier. Challenge your habits and replace them with new habits. Incoporate happy thoughts and get busy, girl. The busier you are the better your mate will be. He He.
I’ve written this article for all single women who HAVE NO IDEA that their single life is the bomb.com.
That you have so much to be thankful for.
Here are a few reminders that your life is fantastic, awesome and many people would want to trade places with you in a heartbeat
After you have been convinced about how miserable your existence should be because no one touches you (throwing up emoji) think about these things.
Think about seven year old Lainie Griffin from Indiana who dressed up as a tired mom for her halloween costume. In 2016. The picture went viral. The worst part was the comments from tired mothers. 22,000 of them.
“I can so relate.”
“All you need is a bottle of wine to cope and its like looking in the mirror.” (really, so motherhood will turn me alcoholic?)
According to US Weekly, Lainie’s mom isn’t surprised the costume has gone viral. “Every parent can relate!” says Jessica Griffin. “So many of us have been too tired to bend over to tie a pair of tennis shoes or put on some socks so we just slip into flip-flops!”
I have NO idea what she is talking about.
I came across this blog. In no way I’m I using it to make fun of the plight of tired mothers but the thing is it exists. I mean the writer wrote many articles and the ones that connected with mothers were the ones discussing how tired they all were. Like this one.
She wrote something very interesting. “I know what it’s like to fantasize about going to bed at 10PM and waking up at 7AM and being terrified that never in the next three years is that actually going to happen.”
OMG. I can’t relate to this at all. I have no idea what 2 am looks like because I am usually in slumberland. I normally wake up at eight in the morning. And at seven when I have to dress up for church.
Count your blessings, name them ONE BY ONE.
Finally theres a photographer called Danielle Guenther. She has a series of family potraits called Best Case Scenario. These potraits depict the sobering reality of having a family. There’s a whole bunch of them. When you are having an especially ‘tough single day,’ go through them by all means.