I get it.
We all have a little celebrity in us.
We all think we deserve attention.
I live in a flat and share it with the owner. She has two cats; Bella and Snow White. Bella has a very domineering personality and has hogged all the owner’s love. Poor Snow White could not compete. She is very skittish and afraid of anything and everything.
Since I moved here, Snow White and I started hanging out and we are now inseparable. She found her person.
This kitty that was once so afraid of stating her needs, now demands my undivided attention. She comes to my room and if I am on the phone, she walks to the closed door and meows to be let out. Talk about a transformation.
I guess we all have a little Snow White in us.
Me, me, me, me.
Rick Warren says in the Purpose Driven Life that it is not about us. We should live lives that glorify God. Turn your attention from you, you, you to others.
We will never be content when all the attention is turned to ourselves. And the magic happens when we make it about others.
Sadly we don’t.
We gobble up everything we are told to purchase to fill the hole your selfish nature has transformed itself into. This hole will ONLY be satisfied when you fill it with this, that and the other.
Marriages don’t work because your partner did not do A for you. You move one from one partner to the next because it is about you. Pleasing you. Giving you attention.
Jeff Goins teaches about the different type of blogs. He said the only time people are interested in you is when you are a bonafide celerity.
The blogging journey has taught me a lot. It taught me to pay attention to the whims of my readers. When I started out I would write a lot of words, but Jeff says you should respect your readers’ time. Use as few words as possible to say what you want.
A few days ago, I wrote a 2500 word article. But people read it in one sitting. And all kinds of emotions were stirred up in my readers.
That is called practice.
This week we are back to under 1100 words because it is not about me. Everyone online is fighting for readers’ attention.
How many bloggers know it is not about them?
I learnt I was not very techy when I started blogging. Tech annoys me. I got web hosting with Hostgator. I am also a pain in the ass customer. There are some tech things I do not want to do so I would call Hostgator and throw a hissy fit.
“Can I speak to your supervisor?”
She’d email me and say what can I do for you?
And they would do everything I wanted done. They listen to my delusional Oprah dreams and just nod. Because they know a blogger may start with one website but will end up with a few. I have two websites I pay hosting for. I will open a third one soon for an NGO my friends and I want to start. And, and, and.
I’ve been paying Hostgator for 3 years and I’m a customer for life. They have removed themselves from the equation. It’s about me the customer. Plus they deliver good service.
A tech support person I was working with actually fired me as a client. I would pay them in installments.
From the time I met them, their firm went on to become very successful and I guess their clients were not paying in installments. I am however an annoying ass; if I’m giving your my hard earned money I will make my displeasure about something known.
They could not see how my dreams could ever come true.
If I’m paying you to do a website, what do you care if I succeed or not? It is not like you are doing them for free.
The crazier ideas I have the better for you, coz each idea will need an online presence. Duh.
It had become about them. They had not figured the bottom line includes the millionaire corporate client and the poor installment paying blogger with crazy dreams.
I am legitimately hard to handle, but Hostgator is laughing all the way to the bank.
Wait till I’m a household name, I will so become their affiliate.
People who are starved of attention are complainers and whiners. They are martyrs and everything else is to blame for their woes. They ignore the part that mentions you are responsible for your life and your actions. All they really want is to have a stage and be listened to.
So for instance if you are single but you wail and lament the fact that there are no good men and God has made you wait forever. Meanwhile you are the person responsible for your singleness. Changing that would reduce your audience. And the pity.
Then you get ataxia. Surely now you have permission to make it about you.
Well imagine no.
The rules still apply. Your blog still has to be about the readers. The only way Oprah will interview you is to show her audience how you worked on a hit show with your shakes and all like Michael J. Fox. Otherwise no one cares. You ataxia does not give you a pass to be wordy and think people have time to decipher what was going on in your head. Or complain till kingdom come.
Your life sucks and is the worst ever.
Follow Hope and Steve December’s ALS journey on Facebook and see what they go through.
I mean you are allowed one or 2 days to whine but seriously, daily?
I avoid whiners and complainers. They may never change. The complaining serves them. They drain me.
This ataxia is not about me. It has introduced many new uncomfortable changes in my life. Like fatigue. Fatigue so acute, you can only do a chore a day. This is such a huge adjustment for the busy body in me. It is recognizing you have entered into “a new normal.”
But there are solutions. Each takes a month to work. If it doesn’t, you move on to the next.
Now these solutions are not available to my relatives back in Kenya.
So how bad do I have it relative to what they are going through? My ataxia journey is about them. We will see how I (with the support of my friends) pull off helping them.